On the statistics of relationships in married couples

While consulting enterprise teams and conducting various studies on socionics, including the definition of the socionic personality type, we also encountered married couples. The resulting sample was examined using socionic methods. As a result of processing data on 119 married couples, we obtained results that are of significant interest for testing socionic postulates and models [7, 8].

It should be emphasized that this sample is random, unlike a specific sample that could arise as a result of processing data from family consultations (where people go to solve problems that have arisen). The age of the spouses is in a wide range – from 19 to 90 years. These couples are married not by civil status, but by their self-perception of themselves as such, by the duration of the relationship (from 2 to 45 years of marriage). In the analysis of the data, only socionic characteristics were taken into account and the age of the spouses, profession, social and financial status were ignored. The type of each spouse was determined independently, we did not ask the spouses questions about the nature of the partner and the features of their relationship.

Table 1. Distribution by types

In the resulting random sample, the overall distribution by types is close to uniform: on average, 15 representatives of each type (see Table 1). By quadrants, the distribution is even closer to uniform (Table 2). Analysis of the relationship of Reinin’s features [3, 5, 10] with gender confirms that only one feature, namely logic-ethics, correlates with the “male-female” feature, and to a fairly high degree: 68% of women are ethicists, 71% of men are logicians. It is interesting that for dual pairs, the usual ratio (known from [1]) of 60% / 40% distribution of men and women by the logic-ethics feature is further enhanced to 78% / 22% (Table 3).

Table 2.

The distribution of ratios (diagram 1, table 4) shows absolute predominance intra-quadral relationships as the most attractive from the point of view of socionics. They make up 64% of the total number of relationships. At the same time, dual relations (or relationships full complement), which, from the point of view of socionics, is the most comfortable due to the interaction of the EGO and SuperID blocks, make up 45% of all relationships. Among intra-quadral relationships, the share of dual relationships is 71% (Table 4).

Table 3.

Table 4.

The second most common relationships are social order – 10% of all relationships. Such attractiveness of these relationships in socionics is mainly described by suggestive influence second functions customer on fifth function custom-made. It is interesting that out of 12 couples with relationships social order 9 (75%) corresponded to Reinin’s sign rights, there were 8 pairs introverted. Indeed, the relationship right order much calmer, more even left, they are characterized by a “peaceful” flow, without sharp contradictions. Introversion of partners also contributes to the stability of such couples.

Next in terms of numbers are the relationships activations (8%), identities (5%) and revisions (5%). Total number of all relationships with opposite quadra (this is a relationship superego, quasi-identities, complete opposites and conflict) does not exceed 8%. It is easy to see that the distribution of relations correlates well with the theory of intertype relations.

Diagram 1.

It is also interesting how intertype relationships depend on the socionic characteristics of types.

Generallyspeakersare more successful in choosing spouses thanstatics, apparently they are better at predicting the possible development of relationships.

In a relationship identities and mirrors prevail logics. Apparently for ethics a closer idea of complementarities, that “opposites attract”. A logics more often they seek complete similarity, likeness, understanding, closeness of views – not deep, but immediate. Probably for the same reason in relationships quasi-identities in the sample under consideration there were only logics. These facts are in good agreement with the ideas of introverted socionics [9] that these relationships correspond to the feature logics.

INbusinessrelations were dominatedintroverts, andrationalThis fact requires further research, but some considerations can already be made.Businessrelationships differ in their nature not only in accordance with the signrationality-irrationality, which was noted by G.R. Reinin (theoretically) [10, 11] and which is confirmed by our practice when people talk about their relationships or we ourselves observe these relationships. But also a sign introversion-extroversion turns out to be essential for the development of these relationships and for their assessment by partners. Introverted business relationships both at work and in everyday communication are much calmer and more comfortable than extroverted. Maybe, introverts in these relationships they go into themselves, inside themselves, and from there, from the inside, they come into contact with the psyche of their partner. And extroverts even more extrovert, get excited, stir up and tugging at each other.

Diagram 2.

Types with emotions E in the EGO block, in general, they are more successful (from the point of view of intertype relationships) in choosing partners than types with ethics of relationships R in this block. Perhaps the former are more oriented towards the emotional climate in the couple, strive for psychological comfort in the immediate situation – every minute – and avoid emotionally tense, unpleasant, non-resonant interactions that are generated by unfavorable intertype relationships. In contrast, people whose types contain ethics of relationships R in the EGO block they expect that they will create the necessary relationships in the future, correct them, improve them. This is especially characteristic of types with creative R – for IR (IEE) i FR(SEE).

At the same time, the dyad ET (EIE) –LF (LSI) has a clear minimum in the region dual relations (Diagr.2) compared to other dyads. Apparently, this is related to semantics +E – dramatic emotions, which correlates with the emotional states that arise in tense intertype relationships.

The fact that there is a significant number of auditpairs (5%), and almost all of them (5 out of 6) are associated with types LF (LSI) and RI (EII) – these types correspond to the state “audited” and “auditor” in terms of introverted socionics [9].

Conclusions:

This article presents only a part of the results obtained as a result of the analysis of experimental data. In general, they fully confirm the provisions of socionics – the theory of information metabolism and intertype relations created by A. Augustinavichyute [1-5] and developed over a number of years by many researchers.

In the following publications, our data will be compared with American statistics obtained using the Myers-Briggs test (MBTI). We will only note that they confirm the conclusion of A.V. Bukalov about the systematic error that this test produces [6].

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